Indian Wedding customs – ritual and traditions, Mangalsnan, Mangalsutra, ceremony
The significance of water at these ceremonies could be associated to the purity of water in spiritual terms , or it could have evolved from that all enduring belief in the “fountain of eternal youth “ , endowing “water “with properties of miraculous powers to rejuvenate .While there is nothing such as ‘snan’ water that distinguishes it from ordinary water , except , perhaps , the magical effect of the mantras or prayers chanted by the priest ,elaborate ceremony rites associated with the “ritual of the bath”, continue to be performed to this day at almost all ceremonies , particularly weddings .
Much significance has been accorded to the bathing ritual or mangalsnan for both the groom and the bride-to-be, prior to the wedding ceremony. Apart from spiritual reasons , the belief goes ,that this tradition perhaps takes root in the “royal baths” , where the queens were anointed with aromatic oils and bathed in fragrant water baths filled with “attars” or rose petals, to make them look more beautiful for their kings .Since then ,through the ages , every bride for every prince charming has been following the same ritual for enhancement of her looks , with slight modification and variation in the actual ceremony form associated with each ceremony and religion .
For instance, it was customary, at one time, amongst Punjabis, for the girls, to remain in her old clothes for one or two days (or even more), before the wedding. This so called “Mayean pe gayen”, where the girl remained in her old clothes for a period of time , sitting in front of four diyas lit before her was considered essential , as it was believed that the light of the diyas would be reflected on her face , thereby making her glow and look more beautiful on the wedding eve !
The Punjabi ritual of the bath is still a rather elaborate one, beginning with the first step of getting “suitable holy water” for the bath. For “ghara ghardoli”, as this ceremony is so called , the ladies of the house , usually the bride/groom’s sisters , cousins , and bhabhis(sister-in-laws), led by a married sister who carries the “ghara” on her head ,placed over a pink chunni ,go to a nearby temple , to fetch the water for the bride/groom’s bath, to the accompaniment of songs , jokes and laughter . As she enters the house, she is welcomed by the mother of the bride or the groom as the case may be with sweets and an auspicious token of money and gifts for this occasion.
Is wearing 2 types of thaali (mangalsutra) in one chain acceptable?
My finace is Hindu & I am catholic. We plan to get married once in church & once in a temple. Can 2 thali's (mangalsutra) – one as per catholic tradition & one as per Hindu tradition be worn on a single chain?
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what? iam confused
whats mangalsutra?
Yes, you should never remove your Mangalsutra in any time but when having sex its okay. Like u said, u don't want it to be dirtied and it is also very uncomfortable. So it okay to remove during sex but remember to wear it right after the night is over.
yes ur married to her, she is your wife!! you can tell her, to come to your house and stay with you!
Have you checked local jewelry stores for ideas? I usually get inspiration from those sorts of places then think of my own.
Even if I were also a Non-Hindu.I would feel happy and proud ,because it make my look charming,attractive and glammed by simply putting some pinch of Sidoor
on my MAANG,wear toe-ring[Bicchiya} ,nath,laung,andMangalSutra very happily.I have seen many such women in MP.UP,Chhattishgarh,ORISSA,WB
also.
as you know marriage is the name of compromise.being a woman i am also a supporter of women's right but this is not a right way to protest. in our culture wearing mangalsutra is symbol of your suhagn .if your hubby &in laws wants that u should wear it than whats wronge? if u don't want to wear on weastern out fit than take a mid way just hide it inside ur shirt .your in laws only force u for their son beacause not wearing it feels them emberesing.i hope u do love ur hubby so leave it and enjoy ur married life becoz life is much preciouse then these types of misunderstandig .try to conveince ur betterhalf he will also under stand u .always try to take a midway in social & married life becoz every time attack is not a best defance!
The simple truth is that, its we Indian men have encourage the woman to step outside the house…..Today, we regret….so take it as it comes…now.
Looking at jewelry cannot be described as "research." This word is reserved for serious matters.
i think the best person to give you an advice is a lawyer
It didn't matter, to them women are like cattle- status being either married or not. Men are considered the traders of women, and are held above this marriage status.
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You can consider some simply silver jewelries, which can make you more elegant.
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I'm not an Indian, but I'd say it depends on whether you mean this in a religious,cultural, or a legal sense. If you haven't gotten it legally performed the government probably won't recognize it, and you should have a ceremony performed if you want to get married.
As for the religious sense, if there is a religious text available concerning this practice, which I confess I have no knowledge of, I would recommending reading it. The ceremony he performed may be all that is required, or there may be a stipulation that a religious or ceremonial official be there to witness the ceremony. Also, the culture may have shifted from the literal meaning of the words in that book, and may still expect certain practices to be followed, so if the cultural answer is what you're seeking then you should wait for a knowledgable Indian to answer.
P.S. if you're living in the US, then we wouldn't be able to legally "accept" your marriage as legit if you don't have a marriage license/certificate. For purposes of being able to …perform marriage duties, and culturally not being allowed to perform these actions if not married, the legal aspect may or may not be relevant.
Validity of Hindu Marriage Ceremonies is based on section 7 of the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955, read it:-
Ceremonies for a Hindu marriage.-(1) A Hindu marriage may be solemnized in accordance with the customary rites and ceremonies of either party thereto.
(2) Where such rites and ceremonies include the saptapadi (that is, the taking of seven steps by the bridegroom and the bride jointly before the sacred fire), the marriage becomes complete and binding when the seventh step is taken.
The Hindu marriage has to be solemnized according to the customary rites & ceremonies of any one of the party, so what has to be checked in the present case what were the necessary customary rites & ceremonies of both these two parties. Whether mere exchange of garland & putting golden chain with mangalsutra sufficient marriage ceremonies for any of them or not. Second question which has to be checked is if the rites and ceremonies include the saptapadi (that is, the taking of seven steps by the bridegroom and the bride jointly before the sacred fire) in case of any of these two parties. What I can presume this being a marriage between both or one of the south Indian person & as far my information goes the marriage ceremonies in certain group of people in southern or other part of India the ceremony of Satapadi doesn't exist, this however does not mean in that case their Hindu Marriages ceremonies are not valid if other required necessary marriage ceremonies applicable to both or one of the party has been preformed which will bind both of them in a legal marriage. In North Indian Marriages between Hindus the necessary ceremonies include Homa/Havan, Panigrahan & Saptapadi. Unless the complete history of the Hindu Marriage applicable to the parties in question is checked confirming that whatever ceremonies were performed between was legally sufficient for the valid marriage between them, no further comments can be passed on such marriage & its legal validity. None registration of Hindu Marriage does not invalidate the marriage in any case hence this plea that the marriage was not registered with the registrar of marriages under the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955 or any other relevant matrimonial registration Act won't get any relief for assuming it invalid marriage on this ground only.